​The Baseball Life: You're Not Ready

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To the girl that’s just starting out,

You’re not ready, I can promise you that. You’re not ready for what’s to come and there’s absolutely no way to prepare you for it.

There’s no way to explain how lonely you’ll be on the first road trip of the season in a new town with all your friends and family hundreds of miles away. You’ll start off strong and tell yourself, “I’ve got this.” And then on day 9 of the 12 day road trip, you’ll lay on the floor and question every decision that led you there and if it’s going to be worth it.

There’s no way to prepare you for finally meeting other girlfriends + wives and the unparalleled, lifelong friendships you’ll build with them. They’re the toughest women you’ll ever know, from all over the country and in all walks of life—the only ones who will truly understand your life.

There’s no way to prepare you...

     …for how proud you’ll be after his first game.

     …for the first bad game, when words fail to make things better.

     …for how weird your sleep schedule is about to become.

     …for the first time you see someone slam your guy in an article or on social media.

     …for using only 2 pans and 1 pot all season long or sleeping on an air mattress for 6 months.

     …for the baseball family you’ll form over crock-pot meals, cards, and wine.

     …for the moments when life happens—you lose a loved one, a tire blows, the house floods, or you've just had a horrible day—and you need him, but he's in the middle of a game so you just have to wait or do the best you can on your own.

    …for all the weddings and parties and family events you’ll attend alone or miss altogether. Oh, and all the times you’ll be asked, “Why can’t he just take time off to come to my [insert important event here]?”

     …for being a married couple with roommates because you can't afford anything else (and loving those guys big time).

     …for the local community that will welcome you with open arms and feed your hunger—for dinner and for connection.

     …for how much better red wine tastes out of a plastic cup, sitting on the floor in an unfurnished apartment.

     …for the love you’ll feel for a teammate’s kid when you can’t have one of your own.

     …for how you’ll lose yourself and find yourself—a better, stronger self—at the same time.

     …for the person that’s mean to you without even knowing your name.

     …for how much you'll look forward to one off day a month.

     …for how good you’ll get at being alone, packing up your whole life 3+ times a year, and summarizing your current situation in a way that people outside your world can understand...or at least stops all the questions that you have no answers for.

     …for the panic and adrenaline rush that comes with a mid-season move.

     …for host families that have no reason to take you in but do it anyway.

     …the love you’ll have for the 4-legged “pet” that will become your best friend, your protector and, at times, the only reason you smile during the day.

     …for the unknowns of where you’ll live in 2 days once spring training comes to an end.

     …for scheduling your pregnancies and births around seasons and games...and the very real possibility that your guy still won't make it there in time.

     …for being a single mother for the better part of 8 months every year.

     …for 22 flights in 11 months, just you and your infant, to keep your family together while daddy’s on the road.

     …for the heart wrenching sobs of “I want my daddy” when he leaves for a 10-day road trip just a few days after returning home.

     …for every time you have to bite your tongue in the stands when someone bad-mouths your guy, and each time someone comments on how rich you must be, how easy your life is... or asks who you belong to.

     …for the memories you’ll make with the man of your dreams, laughing on an air mattress at 2am.

     …for how comfortable you’ll get with being uncomfortable and never knowing what comes next.

     …for the moment you finally realize that it really is just a business and that most people will never understand the reality of the game.

     …for how much you’ll long for the off-season and a normal life, and how much you’ll miss the rhythm, excitement, and friends of the season.

     …for the way your heart will burst with pride the first time you see the love of your life accomplishing his biggest goal in life—stepping foot on an MLB field after years of hard work, with only pennies to his name.

     …for the words “I got released”.

     …for how much he'll inspire you every single time he gets right back up after he gets knocked down.

     …for the adventure of a lifetime and actually living the dream.

There isn’t a way to prepare you for any of what’s to come. But when the time comes, you’ll be ready. You’ll conquer it all, you’ll get it done, and you will get through it.

You’re not prepared—but you will thrive.

xoxo
The girls who’ve been exactly where you are.

**written in collaboration Brittany RossChancelee TaylorKorrin Torres, and Meghan Layne**

 

Why we are definitely NOT "goals"

There was a time when the words, “you guys are goals” put a smile on my face. I lived for painting a picture of a perfect relationship. Isn’t that what everyone wants? An Instagram feed with pictures we have strategically chosen, with multiple filters on each, to hide any ‘ugly’ reality so people will think the ‘bad’ just doesn’t exist? Wrong. Real people, want real people. Behind all of the masking I was doing in my life, I was a real girl, in a real relationship. One that has had real highs, and really real lows. A couple that has had so many individual struggles and victories, all leading us to this very moment. Two people that have made an incredible team together, but at times have let the other down.

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Why have I been so ashamed to admit I’m not perfect or my relationship isn’t perfect? It comes down to realizing perfect. doesn’t. exist. Man, that’s hard to realize when all we do is surround ourselves with fake perfection. We follow people on social media and envy everything they have, without knowing who they even are. We listen to the voices telling us how we should view beauty, how we should act in order to be accepted, and what our relationships should look like (thanks Nicholas Sparks). We subconsciously start comparing our lives and our relationships to the ones we see on social media, on TV or even in the movies. Y’all; have you ever found a cookie recipe on Pinterest and tried to recreate it? I’m the queen of, “nailed it” moments when it comes to Pinterest. My cookies never look like Martha’s but that doesn’t matter when someone says, “this is the best cookie I’ve ever had.” You see where I’m going here? Our lives don’t have to look perfect to be fulfilling. We all know Martha had professional photographers, a grade A oven and picked the 5 best cookies out of the 3 dozen she made anyways (no shade girl, love your recipes). 

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It has taken me years to learn the true meaning of authenticity. A word that has changed my life. I’ve learned that a relationship that experiences challenges isn’t one to be ashamed of. The relationships I look up to have all confessed to surviving some really difficult times. Those times don’t always come 15 years down the road after you’re married. Sometimes, they happen during seasons that we have been led to believe should be the “happiest times of our lives.” Does that mean we have failed? Does that mean that happiness isn’t meant for us? Nope. We are just living in an age where it is so easy to access a world where the things we share are picture perfect. Leading us to believe, at times, we are the only ones without an exciting, beautiful, or perfect life.

 

So, what happened when I ripped off the mask and allowed myself to blow the horn as the new conductor on the hot mess express I’ve been riding my whole life? Everything. Everything I wanted in life started to happen. Genuine connections with people, a deep-rooted happiness I hadn’t felt before, and I started to become a person I was pretty proud to be. For the first time in my life I am truly comfortable in my own skin. I was so busy trying to be something I thought I HAD to be that I was confused who was really me and who wasn’t. That’s a gross place to be. I’ve said it other places but I felt a pressure to be perfect for the sole fact that Nick was a baseball player. I thought I needed to look a certain way or have a certain job title to be “worthy” of my relationship. Once I learned how wrong I has for feeling that and tossed those feelings out the window like an old piece of chewing gum, I’ve been able to let people see the real things that make me enough. Now, that doesn’t mean people still don’t have their opinions about me and my relationship but those are THEIR feelings to feel. The people I have connected with through authenticity are THE most incredible people I’ve ever met. Trust me, the people you want to sit down and have a cup of coffee with are the ones that don’t care if you haven’t had time to get your nails done or if your Instagram feed is cohesive.

Trust me, the people you want to sit down and have a cup of coffee with are the ones that don’t care if you haven’t had time to get your nails done or if your Instagram feed is cohesive.
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I’ve found it difficult with my social media to find the balance of showing how proud I am of how far we’ve come, while still acknowledging the battles we’ve fought to get here. This relationship isn’t something I’ve always been proud of, but the marriage we have today is the proudest I’ve ever felt about something.

 

Choosing to be authentic has opened a door that allows people to see my relationship isn’t spared just because of the lifestyle we are in. We are just as prone to the heartaches of the world and we have felt some of the heartache life has to offer. We have worked really hard to become the people we are today and have learned the hard way the pain that can come from not having a Christ centered relationship. Putting Nick first is setting him up for failure in our marriage. As hard as he tries to be the perfect husband, and as close as he comes, he will always be as human as the rest of us (Jack Pearson anyone?)

 

We’ve all heard it before, relationships take work. Whether it’s friendships, dating or marriage each of these relationships need to be tended to in order to grow. Which brings us to asking for help. How are we supposed to know how to handle some of the curveballs life throws? One of the best things Nick and I did is invest our time and money into Christian marriage counselor. Someone that through the ups and the downs can give us tools to put in our tool belt. When the time comes that we need one of those tools to fix something in our lives, we have it. Marriage counseling does not mean you are failing, it means you are willing to prepare yourself and your relationship for the challenges you WILL face because you don’t want to fail.

 

I always think of what I’ll tell my children one day when I see them gushing over a romantic fairytale love or envying that Instagram couple that are #goals. I want them to know love is real. I want them to believe that God has made someone that fits their heart so perfectly the thought of that piece missing brings you to tears. I also want them to know that there isn’t a human in the world that is perfect. There isn’t a relationship in this world that is perfect because we are human. As imperfect humans, we have the horrible ability to hurt people we love with our words or with our actions. I want my children to know a beautiful relationship can be messy, complicated, confusing and boring at times. The beauty in the pain is there is opportunity for massive amounts of growth and through growth comes the deepest forms of love IF you are willing to put in the work.

 

My hope is when people look at Nick and I they don’t admire us because we make our lives look so perfect that we become the unrelatable ‘goals’ we are all so used to seeing. Instead, I hope people see an imperfect couple that have chosen to not live behind the mask of lies telling us we aren’t enough if at times our lives are messy. I would much rather someone look up to us because we are honest about the amount of WORK we have put into our relationship over being #goals because we wore a mask and made it look like love and life is always easy.

 

 

Thankful for you,

The Baseball Gypsy

 

 

Welcome to The Baseball Gypsy!

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Wow. It's officially, official. 

I remember talking about creating this space years ago to my closest friends. It feels a little surreal that today I’m launching the very beginning of my dreams for TBG (The Baseball Gypsy.) Over the past few months I have poured my heart into what you are seeing today, and somethings you haven’t seen just yet! I am incredibly thankful for the people that have helped me take my vision and make it real life.

TBG is a space to have all of my things in one place. My hope is that this site will encourage you to dream without being afraid of where those dreams might take you. Take that trip to a place you haven’t been before, start your side hustle without being scared of the “what ifs”, or find acceptance in the fact we are ALL imperfect people with imperfect lives.

So, why a blog? Writing has always been a passion of mine and something I have wanted to do more of. There are things I want to talk about that will be better “on paper” compared to sitting in front of a camera and rambling. I love vlogging. I absolutely love creating each video and that will still live on. The blog will be an addition to my YouTube Channel and I’m very excited to be creating content on both.

My new apparel shop has me all sorts of giddy. I have loved creating this apparel to represent this amazing tribe of dreamers, wanders and do-ers. What you see is only the tip of the iceberg, so stay tuned!

I am so thankful for all of your sweet messages of love and encouragement. I wouldn’t have been able to hit that launch button if I didn’t feel the support behind me. Thank you for allowing me to continue to connect with you and tell our story. Here’s to a whole lot of memories ahead.

 

Happy Launch Day!

Love,

Korrin

All about VIPKID- Q&A

Finally, a place I can answer all of your questions about VIPKID! I have been a teacher with VIPKID since last August and I still absolutely love it. I get asked almost daily about my job and I'm happy to share my experience.

It can be difficult to find employment that will allow you to set your own schedule and work from home for decent pay. This has been one of our biggest blessings since we decided to do this baseball life together and I know it will be the perfect fit for others as well.

If you have any other questions, please let me know!

1.     What is VIPKID?

VIPKID is the leading online education platform for children in China to learn English through teachers in North America. VIPKID's mission is to provide the North American elementary school experience to children in China between the ages of five to twelve years old, all from the comfort of their homes. Headquartered in Beijing, the company offers fully immersive one-on-one English language instruction provided online by the world's most highly qualified teachers. Curriculum is aligned to U.S. Common Core State Standards and uses a flipped-classroom approach to foster creativity and critical thinking skills. To date, VIPKID has over half a million registered users.

2.     Is it legit?

Yes. I had the same question when I first heard about it. To save you from having to dig as much as I did, let me leave you with a few things that made me realize how legit this company is. VIPKID is ranked #1 on Forbes top 100 work from home companies. You know it’s legit if Forbes backs it! Kobe Bryant also recently invested in VIPKID which is pretty darn cool. The investment in VIPKID marks Kobe Bryant’s first ever investment in education, as well as his firm’s second investment in a Chinese company. I’ve been with this company over 6 months and I haven’t had any issues with payment or personal information.

3.     How does it work?

Each class is 25 minutes long with 5 minutes in between to leave feedback (if you are booking back to back classes.) Each student is learning material that caters to the level they are currently in depending on how well they know English. There are days where I teach 8 classes that are all different and then there are other days I teach the same exact lesson three times. You can see the student and the student can see you once you are both in the classroom (like Skype or FaceTime.) You can also both see the course material which you can draw on. The material is like a PowerPoint where you can go to the next slide or back to the previous slide. There is also a timer in class so you can keep track of how long you have left. Some students can speak English extremely well and you can have full on conversations with them. Other students are just learning how to say their name and the letters ABC. It is fun to have such a variety of learning throughout the day to keep things interesting.

APPLY FOR VIPKID AT THE BOTTOM OF THIS PAGE!
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4.     Do I have to have a teaching degree?

A teaching degree and/ or teaching experience is not required to apply for VIPKID. You do have to have a 4-year degree of any kind. I always recommend listing as many things as you can under experience that could translate to working well with children. This can be anything like coaching or training at previous jobs.

5.     Can I take days off?

Yes! You really do set your own schedule. I have a portal I enter through my VIPKID app and I only open the time slots I want to work. If I want to take three days off, I just don’t open any classes for those three days. The company does ask that you give them a heads up if you will be taking off for two weeks or more.

  6.     What hours can you work?

In Peoria Arizona, the hours that I can work are from midnight to 7am and then again from 6pm- 11:30pm. I can open as many slots as my heart desires during those hours. Keep in mind just because I open slots, doesn’t necessarily mean those slots will all be booked.

7.     How many students are in the class?

For regular master classes, it is always one on one with the student and teacher. For trial classes, they do allow more than one student (usually a sibling) to be in the class. The trial classes are all about having fun and welcoming the kids to VIPKID so having more than one student isn’t a big deal for the trials. Very rarely do I see more than one student in my trial classes but when I do my goal is to try and make them feel so comfortable that they want to come back.

8.     How do you make the course material?

The teachers do not make the course material. The company provides every lesson, all you have to do is review it before you teach it so you are prepared. I have taught so many classes at this point that I hardly ever have to review the lessons because I’ve taught most of them already!

9.     What is the interview process like?

The interview process seems lengthy but there is a method to the madness. As soon as you get hired with VIPKID you are ready to start teaching solo. The interview process doubles as training and making sure you are prepared to teach on your own. It has changed a little since I was hired but when I went through the interview process I had to apply for it, do a 10-minute demo interview and then two, one hour mock interviews. I know they now have other options for people to not have to do one of the mock interviews but my understanding is that isn’t available to everyone.

10.  How many hours do you work?

It depends on where we are living and what we have going on. Last month (February) was the most I’ve ever worked in a month teaching almost 200 classes. This month I won’t be opening as many time slots due to launching my website, spring training and the number of visitors we get. Below is an example of a "busy" week for me.

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11.  How much do I have to interact with the parents?

The teachers are required to leave feedback after each class and the parents are able to leave feedback for the teachers as well. Other than that, there have been a few times a parent will pop in and just say hello or ask a quick question. So, to answer this question, VIPKID is the middle man the majority of the time.

12.  Do I get paid if I refer others to VIPKID?

Absolutely! The company is constantly having some really cool incentive opportunities on top of getting paid for each SUCCESSFUL referral you have. Even getting paid a dollar per class if you are on time (as long as you teach at least 45 classes a month.)

13.  What is the hardest part about VIPKID?

The hardest part is not always knowing exactly how many bookings you will get each week as well as having to time your lessons correctly. The students aren’t always placed into the correct level so you have to adjust and modify on the go. That gets much easier with time. For the most part, I book all of the time slots I open now but that wasn’t always the case. I know there are people who really struggle to get bookings at all within the first few months so keep that in mind if you are needing something with a guaranteed paycheck immediately. Bookings will come, but the amount and how fast you book after you get hired is different for everyone.

14.  How do I apply?

Please let me help you get this job! I would not have been hired by VIPKID if it wasn’t for my mentor. I will personally send you videos that will show you my teaching methods and exactly how I passed. If you would like to apply, please use my referral link below and I will gladly help you through the process.